Yes, this is so well-articulated! I hadn’t thought to put it this way, but this matches my experience too — “digital garden” and “fancy resumé” are two different jobs to be done.
my theory on the personal site vs portfolio as someone who changes mine offen or not at all, is it depends on the audience. a portfolio site is fine but if also want a presence to "express" yourself, it's a different task. combining those jobs is what makes it so tough
yeah it's so dependent on goals but once I realized this it freed me a lot from the binaries that can happen, especially when you're in management and not driving as much creative work hands on
The combination of portfolio site + blog for ideas is working really well for me, I enjoy the cross-pollination going on there as well
Once you arrive at the "i dont need this site to land me a job" is where it gets both fun but annoying because it's figuring out how & what to present and why. But it's freeing not to have to preen for disparate strangers.